Okay, when I heard the suggestion of cutting out sugar, I asked, "What can we eat?" The answer was:
Honey
Xylitol
Agave Nectar
Maple Syrup
Fruit and fruit juices
Evaporated cane juice (sparingly)
Stevia (still learning to like this one)
***I am just going to stay away from sugar substitutes. I do understand that some people have their reasons for using them. But since one of the points of us staying away from refined sugar is that it is so processed, well, that would make Nutrasweet, Splenda, etc, even worse. There are many many studies and facts about why these are not okay. The way they were developed, the way they got FDA approval, the way get pulled because it gets linked to to some sickness, the way that it gets banned in Europe but we still drink it here by the gallons, you can find all that info if you do a little search.***
Besides tasting like chemicals to me all I need to remember is how I was doubled over in pain one night in high school and it didn't go away until I finally realized it was because of my Fresca phase. I was like, "Oh, my stomach hurts. Maybe a drink will make me feel better. Oh, my stomach hurts even worse. Where is my Fresca? Oh, that and how and how when a friend of mine has it her body treats it like arsenic. Yep, arsenic.
If something contains other than the super processed, ultra white, completely void of any nutrients whatsoever, sugar or high fructose corn syrup, it will list it as so. It was hard to figure out and find at first, I had to a lot of reading and searching. But it was not impossible.
There can be arguments about any of these being good for you but I kind of look at it as a "good, better, best" kind of thing. It is best to cut it all out. But not for me, not my kids, not my sweet tooth... but it is better to use sweeteners that have some type of nutrients in it. These nutrients are a plus and a possible negative. Refined sugar has every sort of color and nutrient completely processed out of it so it is a negative and a negative.
Now, my kids have sugar, but not half as much. I consider this good. In his prayers, Samuel prays that his mom will let him have sugar. This is not good. I don't want the focus to be on the deprivation. They have sugar at school, at friends' houses, at restaurants, when the bank teller gives it to them, when they find it (they can find it anywhere), when husband or grandma gives it to them, when I get sick of saying no... but I will just try to cut back where I can. I know that the less I use sugar as a crutch, the more healthy foods they will be eating. My mindset needs to be that sugar is a treat, not a staple.
Here are a few of my tips (though I am obviously still learning):
-Fruit. I try and cut up a bowl of the good stuff in the morning and just have it out for anyone that passes by. It is sweet, it isn't processed, and full of good stuff. Tonight we had three cousins over. Usually, the movie menu would be popcorn, m & m's, 1 more type of candy, and root beer. But tonight it was popcorn, apples (cut like fries), mangoes, grapes, and water. Guess what? No one (except Karl. Sorry, Karl!) missed the sugar. Cousin A asked for more apples and Cousin B asked for more mangoes.
-100% fruit fruit leather. Costco has a big box of them. They are compact, I can keep a few in my bag and hand them out whenever my kids need a quick snack. Target has some tasty fruit treats, too.
-Nuts. Yes, I know they are not necessarily sweet but sometimes all we need is something to munch on.
-Raw honey. It has so many health benefits. At any given time you can find Karl and my dad spouting off great honey facts. It is funny, but true. I can use honey for baking, too. I have a couple of recipes that I really like. One if for whole wheat honey banana muffins and the other is for whole wheat honey brownies.
-The health food store (for us it is Good Earth, Sunflower Market, Whole Foods, and Harmons has a pretty decent selection). I found replacements for some of our staples where we wouldn't miss the sugar at all like mandarin oranges without gross syrup, ketchup, mayo, etc.
-Xylitol. It is good for your teeth. It is in Trident but if you want gum without artificial colors you have to get it at the health food store. At Good Earth I found a pretty good selections of gum and little candies.
-Plan ahead. Most of my sugar purchases and consumption occur when I am starving or my kids are starving or just out pure habit. That means I had to think about where we were going and what we would eat ahead of time and pack some fruit and snacks so we wouldn't have any emergencies.
-Fruit sodas and fruit juices. My kids think a juice box (we call them squeezies) are a treat. When I am craving something sweet, sometimes I will drink a fruit soda, like a can of Izzy's soda. It is make from water and fruit juice and I love them. Just make sure they are 100% fruit.
-I try to have the mentality that sugar is for social and celebration. That way I don't have to feel like my kids are missing out and I am not inconveniencing anyone. Since I know that I am the one giving them the most sugar I will cut it out as much as I can at home and I think I will make a huge difference. And now, maybe sugar will be special instead of a daily staple. If my family wants a special treat, or we are at a party, or someone's house, we will eat sugar and enjoy (I may cringe inside but I will won't let anyone see). If my kids want an afternoon snack I will do my best to fix them something with nutrients, fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole wheat bread, etc..
But sometimes there are times that I just want a treat. And this is my last tip (yes, there is a end to this post).
-Be a treat snob. If I have a choice between some mediocre cookies at the church party that someone picked up at the grocery store and waiting and trying some dessert at a fabulous Italian restaurant... just wait. If I have a choice between stealing a handful of waxy, holiday shaped chocolates from the kids' stash or waiting and getting a V Chocolates chocolate covered strawberry... just wait. You get my point, right? I try and point it out to my kids. Do you want this (mediocre treat) right now or would you rather have that (great treat) later tonight? In the past we would have had both (and right now, my kids still want both). But sometimes holding out and waiting for something I really love prevents me from mindless sugar eating. And it makes the good stuff taste all that much better. I will always try new stuff. It is a hobby of mine. If I love it, eat more. If I don't, leave it. Here is the shocker for me, sometimes, even I really loved it, one bite was enough.
Do you want recipes or should I just move onto my soap box labeled "Whole Grains" next?